A moment of support

[Astrojewels]

Last night, I attended a dance concert for a young family member (not my children) so being me, I psycho analyze these events, cant help myself, this dance school is massive, there must have been at least 150 girls, yes no boys! Ranging from age 3 to around 17.

So the little ones forgot their steps but were having great fun, and the older kids were much more serious, consciously aware of the very large crowd watching, parents and family there to support, and I just wondered to myself ‘how many of these girls really appreciate the support’ the taxi to and from, the money, the time and how many parents were not there?

I also wondered how many of these girls would soon be at an age where the negative outweighs the positive, the percentage that are going to enter adulthood and have nothing good to say about their life?

Programming always makes us focus on the bad of our childhood, the negative always stands out, its just life, so when we become adults how many of us can say that there were times of support, even if it was minimal?

I watched these young girls thinking that in a short few years, their life will be so complex, so mixed up and this moment will be gone, and it will also be gone for the parents because the negative will overlay any positive that ever occurred in the raising of that child.

So my reaction was to hug the young future dancer, tell her how fantastic she was, she stood out, and that I could see how much effort she put in, her response “ no I stuffed up, I missed steps, my costume did not sit right, it mad me look fat.

This age is a turning point and maybe none of you are interested in this story, but I find it imperative that anyone who is programmed look back at this transitioning age of self sentencing.

After trying to get out of the car park, I drove past the theater and one girl is waiting there on the steps for her parents that gave no support, and she had my empathy, because she was the stand out of the night….

[GertrudaRose]

The reason that the standout had no support is the very reason she was the standout.  She tried harder.

As the child of an affair, I was raised like Cinderella.  I did all the housekeeping, cooking, blah, blah, blah, while my sister became a cheerleader and my brother went to college.  Who do you think ended up with a better life - me that had to work hard for everything or my siblings that were coddled and provided everything they desired?  That's right, they are both basket cases while I ended up with a great job and family.

What I'm trying to say here is that while I agree with you wholeheartedly, we each have to grow up and get over our childhoods as best we can.  Some of us are able to use the learnings and others use the experience as a crutch.

It is also possible that they chose a life with a lack of support in order to learn something.

Don't think I don't agree with you, though, because I do.  There are many kids nowadays with no emotional support.  Women's lib made it so both parents have to work and nobody has time for parenting!

[Astrojewels]

Thanks for the reply, I did not think anyone would respond. I think to be a child in this modern world is complex because they have everything we did not; support, finances, choice, rights, openness of expression, opportunities and the list is endless, will the pattern of taking ever find a balance?

I agree GertrudaRose, you do not need to grow up in a stable supportive family to become a stable supportive adult, I was also raised in a very dysfunctional manner, yet I do not carry the baggage of those experiences. I learned a long time ago that you cannot change the past, yet if you allow it, that past will direct your future.

You belong to the minority of people that have allowed their childhood to build a strong foundation of spiritual understanding, and it was this very thought that I had while watching these young dancers, how many will grow up and be able to reflect like you do?

[Rob]

How odd I was just thinking about this exact thing a couple of days ago. From what I see, when growing up there are so many things we want purely because we're told they are good, or we see others doing them & having fun. Being kept isolated & too financially poor to do any of those things can breed huge amounts of resentment & anger in people, but it's these very people who in my experience are the most thoughtful & intelligent because they've had the time to think, reflect & observe. When you think about it, most of the things we missed out on & became angry about, were just distractions & mostly ego-based anyway. Unfortunately, when you're very young you don't tend to think in those terms & all you know is you're missing out & being held down.

[Astrojewels]

Its not odd rob, its tuning in to life, this is a perfect example of universal collective manifestation, you thought about something, then you see a reflection of that thought, perhaps written in a different concept, but it is on the same wave length.

99.9% of children are narrow sited, although they project innocence and pure love, the ego is what guides us to grow into adults, and the highlight of that is adolescence.

Thanks to technology, children are continually brainwashed to illusion of what they desire, they are imprinted. You are truly correct it is a total distraction, but that distraction becomes an adult issue- “I am this way because I was poor” “I never had toys”.

In most cases parents give what they can, no more or less, and one should never resent their life because they did not have material worth.