I wish it is only that simple. But nowadays, everybody is specifically programmable. A large clue is your dreams--if there are many "structural" dreams or wet dreams. Another clue is seeing trigger numbers around you (eleven, thirteen, thirty-three, double numbers, and even 11:11). Other clues include a tendency for sleep paralysis, dissociation, buzziness, loud music in your head, etc.
Seeing icons in your head, like the monarch butterfly, dragonfly, clown, goat, etc also indicates specific programming themes.
Although those in the first paragraph are redflag symptoms, there may be other factors involved. Your best bet is visualize the merger at the pineal gland everyday. There will be common themes. Then slowly but surely, you will know.
If you have issues with the merger, relax and "let it show you its importance." Another trick is to tell yourself with the power of NOW that, "I NOW learn from this (visualizing the merger)." Don't forget to balance the pineal gland energies. You are suppose to visualize the merger to merge all aspects of Self before any hyperspace work or further work with the merger. If you can't visualize the tbar or circle and dot, then draw it on paper over and over again. Also helpful is visual aids--look into the Archetype Images.