If People Fail

[PurpleParrot]

Thanks guys for this post/thread...

I wanted to share my thoughts too in relation to this post...and everyone is right in what they said...

I lost games and matches...I also failed tests,classes, even out of a college..and I felt guilty over it for many years...I struggled to do my best in all my classes..enjoy the classes I was taking..and I felt more confident when I did graduate from college. I'd have a balance of winning and losing..and having a great success..but then a great failure...(in my perceptions). When my pets died, I felt to a small extent that I "failed" at taking care of them properly. Unfortunately, I guess I didn't truly learn the lesson again because I did fail my nursing class..and I felt I "failed" in some of my relations with others...and I keep looking over the past year about what I did and didn't do and what I could have done to remedy or prevent that situation...

It was something I needed..and I'm still learning from it...I used to feel jealous and even frustrated that there were others I grew up with who were forging ahead with stability in their careers...to med school,etc..while I was slowing down and far from getting to grad school. I don't feel too guilty or jealous about that anymore...maybe a part of me still does..but I realized that I need to accept what I'm in and what I'm here for. I've gotta make the best of it too...and I've gotta follow my heart/Oversoul guidance.

I also agree that now its no longer important to have a big house or a car...I think its important to be happy with oneself, to be in good health,to be strong in spirit, to live simply, to always learn, to have important people in your life that you care about and who care about you,to and do your best...I mean there's more to it. I will admit I used to want a good career and a large home...(no not the car) and the ability to afford travel...but I don't think thats important anymore..I realized that after my friend passed away..about what really is...we should never neglect our feelings. i think thats another key to not becoming a robot/true sheeple...

 

[Astrojewels]

PP,

Maybe you should be a counselor? Your ability to break things down always impresses me, good tools to work within that area.

DT,

You are a success, your daughter wanted you to be present with the birth of her child and your support at that time makes you a success – a successful parent. You must be a great mother, and have a good relationship with her, parenting could never be called simple or straightforward as you know.

The words ‘fail and succeed’ have a zillion definitions, to commence awareness of your self-sabotage to this area, you must begin with your own translation of what a success is - Celebrity, politician! Scientist, the list is endless, maybe a person who is just rich with that lifestyle of yachts and mansions.  Do you really have a definition or are you just following the flow of society’s translation?

I must clarify also that I merely use the big house- fancy car as an example, as financial gain is not negative, it is part of physical realism. Money was invented to make people “green with envy” the awareness to this is important. Currency carries energy and it is how you create your wealth that is important, your intent of that energy. As anyone can have a big house, but is it a home? If your intent is just to be rich, you will eventually pay, but when your intent is pure, money will always flow. Accumulating large debt to have a house to compete with the Jones projects the energy of ‘EGO’ therefore that home will never flow with encouraging energy, as it was established with negative and all those that visit will be attracted to that energy.

Make a list of your thoughts to the word success; do you really want to be this? Most of us do not logically analyze the meaning of this word, and when it is looked at in this way, it holds no fear. I am very interested in the thoughts of others to their own translation of – SUCCESS.

[Mercy Now]

I agree that there is no such thing as failure.And as for money and materialism being a measure of success I can tell you from my own  family and life ,that notion is absolutely a program to serve the Illuminati. In my family there is and has been  celebrity that most everyone would know that have/had millions and they weren't /aren't happier or unhappier than anyone else.In my family there is "royalty" who also have many millions of dollars and let's just say they aren't in a "good " place right now . I like comfort and nice things too but I will never sell my soul for them. Most of us have been conditioned and programmed from T.V and radio and Hellywood and   to measure our life against celebrity and told what to think by the What To Think Network. We've been conditioned to believe that if it's in print or on a movie screen it has more credibility than if we did our own thinking and questioning. Our self esteem has been deliberately damaged . That's a tactic.We hesitate to question so called authority out of fear. And therein lies the paralyzing poison....FEAR!

[PurpleParrot]

Astrojewels: Thanks for asking that question about defining success-- I am often impressed and inspired by your posts as well. Counseling would be something I'd want to include in the healing path. I appreciate your suggestion.

As I am writing this--I know what you said would require further introspection. I think success to me means being comfortable,living freely, and happy with nothing to worry about...and the things you do to get you to that consistent position. Its also the feeling that you did something worthwhile that you truly enjoyed that benefitted you -----the feeling that you did not harm others but helped them...that everyone was happy somehow--no one suffered. I agree with Mercy Now on everything she's written..I have family members and I also know of people who live in large homes, have "top" /respectable/ professional/stable careers, earn lots of money, wear lavish fashions to parties and drive luxury cars. However, then I notice they don't have perfect health or happiness.I notice that they tend to have diabetes and heart problems. Diabetes implies they do not know how to truly enjoy their lives or understand what happiness is? Heart problems imply issues with circulating emotions/life?? right? Is this what happens when they get there?? Somehow they still want more after its all been done?  This indicates they are not happy and perhaps they are repressing their true selves? I also think that sometimes they are not really happy and its all for show. There's often too many standards to live up to..meaning rules to follow to keep those standards..no one is living freely. I don't mean to criticize or judge..we can see these problems running rampant everywhere. Some of the general population is trying to be successful, rich and popular(to become scientists,top professionals,politicians,celebrities)....but as mentioned by others posts here, do they realize they are trying to contribute furthermore to their own unhappiness, dissatisfaction with life,and to their prolonged self imprisonment?

I think right now for me, success also means I did something good with my life that others can recognize respectfully. I want to know that I can get rewarded for doing the job well...rewarded meaning that others will like me for what I'm doing(even though I'm aware of why I have that desire to be liked...its still there though I know that its important if I like myself most of all)--other than also having some material compensation that will help me live my life. Also part of the reward is knowing that they also benefitted from what I did---that they weren't hurt or offended in some way--i.e...like singing a song to a group of people or dancing in front of a large audience and getting applauded for it--or providing a service for another that they liked which made them feel better about themselves...... I still need to search within...

I sometimes think that success could also mean getting a point across that will affect and inspire others to do something positive.I commend anyone who follows their heart and does what they truly feel is the right thing.It shows they are not afraid to be themselves and will stand up against the crowd...be individual..not a conformer. They make things interesting that way. :o)

Most of all,I like being around loving supportive people who understand me..and who I love being purely devoted to(that I also equally understand). I like being around people who keep you in the moment in a positive way. I also like being able to keep people in the moment with me as well(If you know what I mean...not allowing for distractions).I also love having good times with people..learning from them and enjoying the flow of things with no worries--doing something spontaneous and random...and interesting...

I just wanted to say I appreciate this thread and all the posts with thought provoking insights and ideas...Thanks everyone!!!!

*working on gratitude/appreciation and positivity*

peace

[Octahedron]

Astrojewels, PurpleParrot, Mercy Now,

Thanks for these wise explanations. :thumbsup:

Having "succes" is relative; not to try where/when you are reasonably and easily able to do, is the only failure.

BTW: I thought "over-perfectionism" and "being overstressed" can also be a reason for failure; Although it has a positive intent.

It's when people want or are programmed to make things perfect, so they are never satisfied with themselves (this is how the educational and the social system do work).

[haven]

I wanted to jump in and say thank you for the posts here as well.  I know I suffer from an inability to finish things, especially creative works, so Karen your post and advice particularly spoke to me.  Even work I have sold has been in my mind "unfinished".  I also suffer from the drive to make it perfect and if it isn't "perfect" I don't want anyone to see it.

Mary- you are right on about the material aspects of success being illusionary.  In my own family the more money people have had the worse off everything else was for them.  This probably helps to keep me in a mind pattern that rejects success as equated with abundance.  And at the base of it all really is fear.

Lots to think on, and to work with.  I will be more dilligent about writing down what I want to complete, as I am terrrible at it (for a reason obviously :big grin:)

[Monica]

There have been many interesting posts here.  I just want to say a word in favour of material/public "successes" - though I realise the word has relative meaning.

Perfectionism can be part of programming, but in those cases it must alway be sabotaged.  Truly perfect information and creativity comes from God-Mind because it is Truth.  I have perfect creativity in my personal energy field, so I really know what it is like to drive and drive and never be satisfied.  I wouldn't want to be satisfied though, because then I might stay where I'm sitting.  Always seeing new vistas is part of deep growth and change.  When you get what you desired and it slips into place, the feeling is amazing.

Despite the fact that 'celebrity' status is used to manipulate people at this time, I still believe they're valid.  These people show us th magnified outpicturing of our mind-patterns.  They could be leaders of individuals, if we took our own power back, rather than shepards to sheeple.

Also: money is the flow of God-Mind experience representing self-worth and a large house/car represents a large and expansive mind-pattern.  You can be a wonderful person without these things, but they do show the people who believe they deserve the best of reality.  Some have ego problems true - and their abundance is based on greed.  However, having these material reflections to create an Arke of energy, makes you more powerful in your sphere of influence.  I want houses across the globe with cars at each one, a plane, and several boats.  Because, I wish to see and experience the power and flow of God-Mind running through my life.  We limit ourselves when we limit our material surroundings.

 

[Mercy Now]

I disagree Monica . Money is a tool representing energy .How one chooses to use that tool is representative of the mind pattern.

[Monica]

Money allows the exchange of experience.  Your self-worth enables those experiences, because this energy stream represents reciprocation for other energetics - it can be used in a "positive" or "negative" sense, but is ultimately neutral.  I am not saying there are not other forms of abundance out there - generousity of spirit is a great gift.  However, money is a universal flow of vibratory exchange.

[DreamTime]

I don't know, Monica. I have never had money - from birth till now - and let me tell you, I have had more 'experiences' in my life than a lot of 'people with money' could ever imagine. True, they might not have been what I wanted or what I dreamed about, but I had them because they were what I 'needed' at the time to grow as a person.

My parents never had money their whole lives either, but that didn't stop them from 'experiencing' life as they wanted to.  Money can't buy you happiness or self-worth...all it can do is help you fill an otherwise empty and lonely existence.

Now don't get me wrong, folks. I'm not saying that all rich people live empty and lonely existences, I'm just saying that money does not make a person.  I guess it just makes it easier to live in this corrupted world of ours.