Kindness

[Astrojewels]

Kindness

 

Kindness is a word that we tend to associate with self, most of us consider ourselves to have this attribute, but do we really? What is kindness and how do you show it without being a victim, without letting your kindness become your weakness.

Someone told me the other day about a philosophy from a very wise and caring woman, she told this person never to give with both hands open, and I have thought about this all week, my mother in-law used to say give with the right and keep the left for yourself, always take when someone is giving, but don’t take when they are not! But she rarely took her own advice; she gave so much more than she ever took.

So how do you balance out the giving and the taking, or for many people I know they take much more than they would ever consider giving, and their attitude is life is for taking and take all that you can, even if you don’t need it.

Taking and giving is complex, but everything in life is.

Programming creates the personality to focus on what is wrong in the person’s life, so problem builds problems, and so many specifically programmed people do not take kindly to solutions, because this then creates the problem to not exist.

How can there be a problem if there is a solution?

Victim mentality involves many attributes, but one factor is that you ‘do accept’ that you are not worthy to receive anything positive.

Release work, or if you would rather call it deprogramming must include finding positive things in your life, and for many this must be done in a journal, each day making a note of something that you noticed that was not all that bad!

When I was young I had a bad attitude towards life, yep I could blame so many factors, my dysfunctional broken home, my alcoholic father, the violence in and around my suburb, I could write a list a mile wrong of things that were negative, then I started to come up to the country for weekends, I would see things that I never took notice of before, birds, trees, clouds you name it, things that the concrete jungle can not provide, so I started writing it all down.

Then Monday morning I went back to my boring office job, but I started to extend my weekends to my weekdays, and before I knew it I had discovered that all that was dark had some light! I think it was then that my inner soul finally awoke to optimism.

So many people say to me, its ok for you because you have a good life, well if some of those people walked in my shoes for a couple of days, they would quickly choose going down with the ship or just putting up the white flag! My life is chaotic, crazy, and totally insane.

It all comes down to your attitude, because you wanted to be born, even if that is hard for you to believe, your spiritual essence went though a lot to enter this physical realm, the pains of childbirth are not entirely physical you know, it is the pain of frequency connection between mother/father and child, the pain includes your universal contract, and although you can not see all the facts of what is about to unfold, it is still something you wanted so bad, and now as an adult have you ever said “I don’t care what happens I want it”, and later regretted such a statement.

We are entering a time of what I call true identity, because many people have already experienced the feeling of being turned inside out! It is a spiritual connection to the universe that we have never felt before, and it requires honesty and integrity, this energy requires internal kindness to others without being a victim, and also allowing kindness to self, unless you can tell me a good reason why you deserve no kindness.

However it must start with everyday, finding a few things that are still empowering in this world of crisis, I challenge you all to do this for a week, find just one or two things each day that brings some kind of optimism, see how many days you can last, and even if you don’t want to put t here on the forum, do if for yourself, and for you spirit.

[Craig]

I can say from personal experience that this exercise is working for me.  Over the last few months I have been very down because of the many issues that I face in my life.  I have been so focused on my problems for so long that I could no longer see anything positive in my life anymore.  This exercise is starting to have a very positive effect on my life in a very short period of time and I strongly recommend that everyone should try it. 

[Astrojewels]

That’s good advice Craig, and the other obstacle I forgot to mention is that everyday we get bombarded with bad news headlines, and this also instills negativity into our mind pattern, they want us to feel this way, it is an easy way to control the population. It will be interesting to see if anyone else responds to this post.

One thing I always had instilled in me was no matter how bad off you are, for what ever reason; there is always someone worse off than you! And the programmed person would reply, ah yes but there is always someone better off than you my friend!

[Mercy Now]

AJ wrote:

However it must start with everyday, finding a few things that are still empowering in this world of crisis, I challenge you all to do this for a week, find just one or two things each day that brings some kind of optimism, see how many days you can last, and even if you don’t want to put t here on the forum, do if for yourself, and for you spirit

I have practiced this for as long as I can remember.

[Astrojewels]

Yes MN, this is why you are an optimist, but this thread fizzled out quickly, which is a shame..

[Ghost]

Awesome message Astrojewels

Optimism Hello!

[warbler]

I know this thread is old but am replying because thank you, thank you Astrojewels. This is exactly what I try to do every day and the results are none less than miraculous. It took a long time to get to this place, but if this is de-programming, or release work, it works wonderfully and I very much love how you explained it AND titled it. Thank you. Great read to start the day!

[Astrojewels]

love to hear it.

people concentrate too much on the negative energies, and we rave on about programming, the illuminati and so on, but the more power you give away the more vulnerable you become, I was driving home the other night and had the privilege to witness the most wonderful sunset, and I said to my daughter, stop and take a look at mother nature at her best, the energy I cannot describe, but that truly was a moment, this is food for the soul.

 

Feed your soul not your ego…..

 

[xan-i]

Great thread - I am surprised it's not pages long already - the initial post gives so much food for thought!

As does 'Feed your soul, not your ego...' I know of people who make a show of kindness to feed their ego & not as a sincere gesture. I have always felt that a kindness should be a quiet affair of the soul, and not something one boasts about forever after...

Genuine kindness is a strength, but kindness can also be exploited by others (sometimes to the detriment of the giver..) Even so, I think in the grand scheme of things, a kindness is never wasted - although it is wise to guard oneself against those who would take advantage of a kind nature.

I think also that it is possible to be too kind...This can have real implications for both the giver and the receiver. Sometimes, what looks & feels like a kindness can have adverse effects. It's a tricky subject, and much depends upon the specifics of any given situation...

Looking around us frequently for all that which is positive is a wonder in itself. I'm sure the exercise that is advocated here serves to cut through even the most powerful of conditionings - though perhaps the individual must be ready & willing to see past his/her 'victim' mentality during the process.  It is all too easy to let darkness obliterate the vision...

I guess all these points come down to sincerity.  If the kindness is sincere, if the active engagement (of seeking the positive) is sincere, then success will inevitably ensue...

Many times I am surprised by the actions of others where kindness is concerned. Some people are genuinely surprised when faced with a kindess offered them.  There are a variety of responses, some positive, some negative. (For instance, a mental/emotional response to a given kindness may be: 'ok, what does this person want from me in return' or 'this person is so gullible, take it while you can' or a sincere & simple thought like; 'how kind'...) Kindess is such a powerful trigger, and can instil strong positive OR negative reactions in another...Perhaps a 'simple kindness' is never quite so simple (except in an ideal world...)

[Astrojewels]

Very true and interesting  xan-I, I know many that ‘their kindness is their weakness’, this feeds the victim within, all things must have a balance and I can tell you from experience it was not so long ago I had to look at myself and actually realize I really did not know how to properly ‘receive’ and so many are like this also, we need to give and take, be kind and at times stern, all things in life need balance, as long as you have compassion in your heart I think that is all that matters, no matter what you have been through or what someone has done, if you cannot move on from that then you will remain in that energy.