Likes & Opposites

[Rob]

Newbie question here... correct me if I am wrong anywhere.

Looking through Decoding Your Life the basic message seems to be that if you hold onto something then it will resonate with similar energies. For example if I have a lot of anger in my system then it will attract more anger energy in the form of angry people, situations that make me angry etc etc.

Other places talk about the law of opposites - the book uses the example of a "nice guy" always finishing last because all of his positive attributes unbalance him & to compensate he will attract negative experiences...

So if someone is filled with unspeakable rage (for example) surely this would mean they will either attract more anger, or attract the opposite to balance it...?

Oversimplifying things somewhat I know, but I am curious about like-attracts-like vs. opposites attract

[Astrojewels]

Rob,
This is a great thread and many people become confused with this, this energy goes under the universal law of attraction, yet as a subsidiary so it is actually the law of reflection.
All emotions like anger, sadness, frustration and happiness are generally ‘energy in form’ anger does not always attract another angry person because usually angry people are non-confronting and want to be angry at someone they know that will not respond, like a bully at school. Happy people do not always attract other happy people either, they have to work constantly on being happy, and are often sad within.
The law of reflection provides us with the awareness that we/each one of us is diverse in our method of communication.
Life requires balance; therefore it is important to attract some people that are like you, others that are not in order to learn the diversity of social interaction.Otherwise you are Prejudice.
If I were to only socialize with others like myself, I would have very few friends and I would form a group of people who are not themselves, they would change to be more like me, or I would have to change to be like them, so there would be no honesty or tolerance of difference.
Yet the universal law often throws in our face people that reflect energy that we must honestly look at and say, I see it in another, and yes I am like that so I need to surface this and release it.
In our programmed world the angry person is constantly being triggered to amplify that anger, to extend it throughout their day, so they are constantly angry and frustrated, this upsets others and feeds the lower astral energy to survive everyday in our existence.
I believe you are in balance when you attract others that are opposite and like-minded; it provides the correct amount of energy for growth.

[William]

Great thread. Indeference is also played out here.

You can also get to a point in your life that you can look at everyone you attract and study and learn from them even if they are just an online friend you have never met. Ive treated a powerful person with inderfernce and it just pisses them off. They want you to become ingrossed in their world and when you dont you get to learn all kinds of things from a person like this.! hahaha I wanted to reach thru the computer and strangle them, then i tell myself to just calm down and watch.... sooner or later you see the real side of things then apply it to your life and grow! :)

I use to be afraid of loosing people so I would become what I thought they wanted instead of being myself.
In the long run your so much better being yourself and as long as your not Purposely Hurting this person your better off being yourself even if you loose them.

[Astrojewels]

Totally agree William and nicely said, being yourself is the only way to attract and oppose the people you truly need in your life, and yes some are not going to take to you, but those that do are there for life. Mixing with others who are not like you allows you to become non-prejudice and tolerant that everyone has the right to unique individuality even if you don’t agree with their lifestyle.

[spiritvoyager]

Astrojewels said:

Life requires balance; therefore it is important to attract some people that are like you, others that are not in order to learn the diversity of social interaction.Otherwise you are Prejudice.  ...I believe you are in balance when you attract others that are opposite and like-minded; it provides the correct amount of energy for growth.

 
These are very interesting points Astrojewels.  Someone once explained to me that being born into a family that was in some ways so different, allowed me to know myself better because of the contrast.  I guess it's the same principle as this:  How can you appreciate love if you have never known hate?  Joy, if you have never known pain?, etc., etc.

William said:

Ive treated a powerful person with inderfernce and it just pisses them off. They want you to become ingrossed in their world...

Your point rang a bell for me William.  The collosal narcissist will always make it seem like their problem is with some shortcoming of yours, which can be confusing, especially if you get caught up in their emotional pollution.  But really, it's always about them.  Them wanting your attention, your time, your energy, your adoration.  That is why they get so pissed off when they don't get what they want from you.  But don't try to explain it to them.  The narcissist really can't (or won't) understand that you are not their appendage, their chattel, or otherwised obliged to do their bidding.  So maybe the correction the narcissist's victim needs to make is to practice more self love, more personal sovreignty.

[Astrojewels]

Spiritvoyager,
I was also born into a family that seems like my opposite; even now some people say they cannot believe my brother is related to me! I used to really think I was adopted, I never fight or argue with my family, ever, and we love each other totally for who we are individually and not what we believe in.
I believe you are what you attract, but that should not be limited to only like-minded; this is religion. How can you become diverse if you are not attracting a diverse amount of personalities? As you mature and grow you see the importance of the indifference.
You must see the ‘you’ in everyone that is in your life, yet this does not mean you are a mirror image of that person, or a reflection, but you must be open minded enough to see what you are in that person.

[spiritvoyager]

Astrojewels,

I am pretty conscious of the me in others in my life.  I have been working at it for over 20 years.  This is one of the major ways I am different from others in my birth family.  Most take direction principally from outside influences.  I see virtually no evidence of self examination.  A while back, someone older said to me that "People don't change."  I think that is true for people who have no inner life and do not strive to grow spiritually.

Of course, I love my birth family members.  I recognize that everyone has a right to choose their own evolution.  It is funny that you mention arguing, etc.  I grew up with a lot of that because my parents fought.  And isn't there always a lot of  "schoolyard" conflict among kids?  I remember feeling very timid and inept and wishing I could be like the kid with the sharpest tongue.   One day, as an adult, I realized that wish had come true in spades. I even had to learn to keep my sharp tongue and mental agility under wraps, especially if I was angry.  Thank God, I'm usually not, as I have learned the wisdom of cultivating equanimity.  Still, I do not regret being raised in a family that prepared me well to deal with conflict and other not so great things one encounters in the outside world.  And now that the parental influence has waned, there is very little overt conflict.

When you spoke of balance, I was thinking along these lines:  Love, Hate; Joy, Pain; etc., are opposites, but two sides of the same coin.  That we have to experience the corrospondent to the extreme where we are at to find balance.  Balance is equanimity.  Strength comes from mastering lessons from both sides of the coin.  Does that make sense?

[Astrojewels]

Spiritvoyager,
That makes perfect sense, and like you I learned from a very early age what conflict was within a family unit, my dad was a British bulldog vs. my mother a Scottish terrier LOL. Yet even during that conflict as a child I was still the observer, because it was parent against parent and never included us kids, although we witnessed and experienced the emotion of it. I chose the alternative route to you; I was a very vocal teen, which got me into a great deal of trouble.
I then came to a point that a skill I do have ,without sounding egotistical, is to be an observer, to witness and separate the two objectives because in a conflict situation both parties believe they are right.
You have been able to experience the conflict in a very positive perception; it provided you with your strengths and did not instill or enhance your weaknesses like the childhood does to so many.
Yes I agree that you must flip that coin on both sides in order to find balance. I would also agree that people don’t change, but they certainly grow and grow to become more whole and tolerant and less inclined to react.

[Sariel]

It is a well known thing that the British and the Scotish don't get very well together; at least in the politics.
We missed only an Irish here ;)
It is probably something in their temperaments, and maybe it is political, Windsors vs. Rothschilds. Though, that gives you interesting genetic mix.

[Astrojewels]

Sariel, it’s not just their temperament, it is energy that has past through the blood of each generation from the wars when Britain wanted to conquer the world, very political, and they did not overpower through battle. I grew up with stories of the wars and they were hundreds of years ago, and now my mum tells them to my children, the Scottish are a very passionate strong spirited culture.
My grandfather was Irish, so I am also part Irish!