hello

[grofys]

[size="1"][size="2"]the following was brought up the other evening:

some people are only here for one purpose. before the situation is made perfect for that purpose, and after the purpose been fulfilled (perhaps giving birth to a prodigy, etc.,) the lives of those one-purpose people are long-suffering because there is no other reason for those people to exist.  perhaps god, the universe, whatever, not out of love, but out of single-purpose.  so the laws that apply to the others, who have multiple purposes do not apply to these people, and they essentially lead miserable lives beyond their purpose. 

this was brought up after one woman's husband left her and her child.  she never felt there was a place she felt comfortable in the world, never a place she knew she belonged.  although this woman is warm, intelligent and funny, she has only 1 friend, and has never made any kind of impression, as it were, in the world. 

also, people generally don't like her.  her son, on the other hand, is a beautiful, talented, almost super-genius.  could this woman's sole purpose be to give birth to this child, and now that this is over, must suffer at the slight of the universe?

anyone?
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[Richard]

Welcome to the forum grofys,

This is a strange introduction. In my opinion giving birth wasn’t the woman’s only purpose. We all come here to learn. The experiences the woman had during her life would be what she came here to experience. Even if the life seems miserable and without purpose, there are experiences to learn from.

[Andrea]

Hi and welcome to the forum.
I have noticed in my experience, when people are warm, loving and generally "good" people and other people dont like them, it ususally has more to do with the other people. Maybe this woman has a way of allowing others to look at themselves, with respect to who she is, and they dont like what they see, so they shy away from her.

I know the more that I wake up to what is going on in the real world, people are becomming less tolerant of me also, and personally I really dont care. Someone on the outside may look at my situation and say "wow, why are all her old friend estranging themselves and talking about her?" They make look at it as negative, when in reality its positive because I am growing as a person and many of my friends are not.

I would say we have MANY purposes in our lives not just one. For me my purpose is to discover my purposes.

[Astrojewels]

Welcome Grofys,
Interesting topic, I would say that the best thing that could of happened to this woman is that her husband left, because if he never made her feel worthy of anything but being a wife, then he was not much of a husband to start with. She has one friend; some people have fifty and could not call on them for support, so if that one friend is supportive then that is all she needs.
If it was the purpose of an individual to give birth to a prodigy, would the mother then live a life of misery? Firstly for the child to be able to achieve this calling there would have to be something special that only the parents could provide for the child to excel in the field of excellence.
How did the child get from A to Z? Through the determination of the parent, and the sacrifices made because of the belief in the child. I think the problem here is with the woman who ‘thinks’ her life is worthless, and perhaps she has received her wish for her child but no longer has control of the day to day requirements of his/her growth, I assume the child has grown and become more independent and she may feel unimportant.
Have people told her they do not like her? Or is it her own belief because she does not like herself presently? not many people make an impression in the world, but what is more important is the impression you make in your own day to day world.

Andrea,
Great words and advice, and yes it is so true that part of growing is leaving some things and people behind, and it is difficult to do emotionally and can reflect on how you look at self, and for some it can be just too difficult. Once you let go, others come into your world that are like minded, supportive and just what you need. Growing is having the ability to not take offence by others words or actions, and is a reflection of their own doubts thrown at you, so they do not have to take blame or responsibilities for their own inadequacies.