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[Trinity]

Trinity,
Yes, I agree to attract someone like that but there is a need to find ‘who you are’ and what is your position in life. I believe that we humans are divided into those who require support and those who provide support, yet both are equally daunting. Because needing support often puts you in relationships that enhance the victim mentality and the opposite is becoming over dominant. Ego and opinion does prevail our naturally ability with tolerance and compassion.
Being a supporter does require you to have control of your emotions, and not feel that you have been betrayed once that person no longer needs your guidance, because once the supported has reassurance to their inner strength, then they can go on and become a supporter, if we all did this the world would certainly change.
Please share how you enhanced this persons natural ability to shine their own light, love hearing about it.

Actually it's the reason I am currently single to be completely honest. I started to grow and change and hoped this person would come with me. He did become the victim and blamed my growth for the relationship failing. I think as my light started to shine he chose to hide in shadows. It became obvious within a few months the vary things that had brought us together (our spiritual interests) would be the things that came between us. He became jealous and unfortunately the relationship came to end.

I believe people can come together to grow but when one stops growing you have a serious problem-it doesn't even matter if you are growing in different directions as long as you are both growing.

So not the happiest story-but none the less I learned from a lot from it. As you say there are those that want to be supported and those who support. It taught me my role as a supporter and also that I really was quite happy on my own after all. I believe I attracted someone to prove that to myself?

[Astrojewels]

GB, your wisdom shines.
Being a parent is just as difficult as being a child, and I have learned more from my children than anyone else, and yes at times feel unappreciated. If you can see ‘the whys’ of your father, not make excuses for his behavior, but understand what makes him react. I am sure that you will heal yourself, because once a problem is activated, released and either participant begins to heal the broken cord, the energy of the relationship changes, if you are determined with will and spirit, you pain will just disappear because you no longer hold the emotions that bare that pain.

[Astrojewels]

Trinity,
That is interesting, and I like how you have analyzed the situation, and I agree that many things that bring people together do also separate them. it is often mirror imagery, you see so much of your own faults in another that you make changes to your life, and that person is no longer required for you spiritual growth. Throwing blame is the egos way of saying “hey Im in the wrong here but don’t want to take responsibility, so I will make you feel the guilt” and so many take on guilt from others inadequacies.
I also agree that being single is a time that you should work on self, healing etc and also sending energy out to the world. one person can change the lives of many just through thoughts and energy projection.
Cheers.

[Trinity]

Thanks yeah I have spent a lot of time working on myself and hopefully with good results. :)

[Astrojewels]

I think the hardest thing in life is learning to trust ‘who you are’ and then everything else falls into place. Trust is such a big issue in life and doubts always plague the mind. It is easy to see who you are; just look around at the people that are in your life, if they trust you it is because you trust yourself, if they doubt you or always wanting to contradict what you have to say it really is a reflection of self-analysis. You have to be who you want and not what others want.

On my own journey of self search, I believed and was told by someone that once had influence in my life that I was born for everyone, because I was always supporting. Yet, I realized this is wrong because it made my life often feel worthless to think I was born just to be a cushion for everyone’s fall, I was always questioning my purpose and knew deep within life had to offer me more than that. I love being a supporter, but I have little patience to be a continual sympathizer, I refuse to support a person who is not willing to help with that support.

The majority of my astrology profiles are from those who are in ‘transition’ not those who want to know what to do tomorrow, so the general response I get is these people knew it; they just required a little reassurance. So I found my comfortable place and plan on staying there for awhile because it feels good and does not come with doubt.

Sometimes it takes us Pisces fish a little longer to see the big ocean is not so scary after all.

[Blue Oracle]

Boldened~~alway go to the root of things...let us address your health first, then I will share thoughts about relationships.

I have some questions to better understand your moment in time.

Answer what you are comfortable with, flow around the rest.

~TMJ is a Medical condition, usually caused by an unattended infection in a tooth.~

Have you been treated?  Who told you, this is what you have?  When and how did it begin?

~To help with sleep, you must do some inner healing.~

 Have you ever studied meditation?  Do you know what bio-feedback is?

Blue~~

[Trinity]

I think the hardest thing in life is learning to trust ‘who you are’ and then everything else falls into place. Trust is such a big issue in life and doubts always plague the mind. It is easy to see who you are; just look around at the people that are in your life, if they trust you it is because you trust yourself, if they doubt you or always wanting to contradict what you have to say it really is a reflection of self-analysis. You have to be who you want and not what others want.

On my own journey of self search, I believed and was told by someone that once had influence in my life that I was born for everyone, because I was always supporting. Yet, I realized this is wrong because it made my life often feel worthless to think I was born just to be a cushion for everyone’s fall, I was always questioning my purpose and knew deep within life had to offer me more than that. I love being a supporter, but I have little patience to be a continual sympathizer, I refuse to support a person who is not willing to help with that support.

The majority of my astrology profiles are from those who are in ‘transition’ not those who want to know what to do tomorrow, so the general response I get is these people knew it; they just required a little reassurance. So I found my comfortable place and plan on staying there for awhile because it feels good and does not come with doubt.

Sometimes it takes us Pisces fish a little longer to see the big ocean is not so scary after all.

Yes I am learning to "use" the people in my life as a mirror to show me myself.

If I have an issue with someone I try to immediately look for that in my life-quite easy to find if I am willing to look. As you say also I am learning to trust that I am who I am for a reason.

[Get Boldened]

My father yelled at me for not getting straight A's in high school and then I started clenching my teeth since that day. When I woke up for the first time to fatigue jaws, I was terrified that my jaws locked and could not be opened. I yanked my jaws back open, unfortunately misaligning both jaws. At the moment I still clench my teeth in sleep and sometimes it would wake me up. The TMJ is painful at all times.

My dad was just a nazi.

I have gone through four years analyzing my thoughts as reflecting reality without success. Now Im trying to control reality in whatever means necessary. I'm also researching into the occult.

[Blue Oracle]

Boldened~ so your condition was somewhat self-inflicted if I understand your post correctly? Do some research into Structual Integration or Rolfing. This is the site of the creator of the technique~

http://www.bostonrolfing.com/wst_page2.html

The practice is wide-spread now, you may be able to find an SI practice near you.  If you study the technique yourself, you can perhaps relieve the pain when it accures.

I would suggest you get the video ~What the bleep do we know. ~ Get the Quantum Edition "Down the Rabbit hole" if possible.  It will explain many things that are accurring in your walk here, and why.

Blue~~

[Get Boldened]

Thanks Blue Oracle.