My Soulmate Was

[eagertolearn]

I have a different theory on soulmates. Most of you may not agree with me but i'm here to share my thoughts on the subject.

I believe we all reincarnate and in doing so have had many partners from these lives? I believe that some people don't feel whole in their lives and think that if they met someone they knew from a past life they would feel whole or would be so happy to know that they have met this person.

So who tells you you met this person and how do you know? I feel this is a no win situation and it is very hard to ever know.

I believe that we all should work on ourselves if we don't feel whole all by ourselves untill we do. Once we do this we will meet someone most suitable to us.

Think about it are most people looking for a soulmate. To me a soulmate is someone that is the same as you but the opposite gender. i.e soul mate. I know i wouldn't want to live with a male that was the exact opposite of me, i wouldn't be able to put up with him.

The other aspect i also think of while thinking of the soulmate thing is. I wouldn't want to live lifetime after lifetime exactly the same or with the same people in the same situation. To me this would mean i hadn't learnt anything in the last lifetime and hadn't moved forward.

I had a big think about this subject in the past.
Hence the reason i can say i have looked for a life partner instead. Someone i can share this lifetime with. After deciding to put out for that instead of a soulmate, i found him, someone who i can actually enjoy being with and can spend this lifetime with untill i die.

I do believe that we still meet people from our past lifetimes of whom we have known though. Which is why we still feel some sort of conection to them i.e ( we meet someone and get on so well and both have that feeling that we know eachother somehow, but reality in this life you both know for certain you have never met.

I just want to add one more thing. What ever you put out for, the universe provides. If you put out for a soulmate and still wonder why you havn't found that person. I believe you already have but cant live together or cant get along.

Put out for a life partner instead and see who you meet instead. I did.

[PurpleParrot]

I dont know what to say about this at all but I want to briefly/vaguely share my reality in the safest way possible that will not create misunderstandings or take people off their paths. Everyone must go within to feel if something is right for them to hear/read/see/perceive and it should be right for them and for them at the right time,space and place. I do not intend to impose my credences/philosophies or anything I have lived with upon anyone here but I just only wanted to share.

I have found what I was looking for for the past few years of my life and I live with that reality. I have found and met my twinflame for this timeline. I do not know anything about our soul energies being identical/equally opposite prior to this timeline and in our future timelines but I do know for this timeline and for me and only me I have found my twin flame for my life form. We face my reality with each other. Even as I am living with them, I often wonder also about another lifepartner. I do not know how long twin flames can co exist with each other in one lifetime nor do I know how often they meet. I do know I can attract another life partner and it doesn't have to be a twin flame or soulmate. Do not get me wrong, I love this reality of having a twin flame and soulmate in my life. I wish for everyone to be there for each other in the perfect way suitably imagined for them and only them.

I have also met many people who are soulmates--people with comfortable energies--they can even put out negative and positive but I feel that I can handle it much better with them or without their realities. I can be with these people in many levels of life and reality and its both comfortable and sometimes horrible yet we still need each other on some way or another. It is unconditional. Even they feel that way about me in their realities--that they can tolerate and accept everything that I am and be with me in this way or manner. I feel one may always attract the ones that will reflect them at the right times and moments in their lives and it could be at a certain intensity that one couldn't imagine before. One goes through that where they meet people who will reflect them as they are currently in various points in their life. There may even be changes upon meeting each one usually for the better. Some of them have been ones who have stood out to me like no one else could stand out for me and thats how I can recognize them for who they are. The meeting might not be as lengthy as one likes but one can tell who they are and if its right to live with them/share a certain amount of experiences with them,etc.

Thats all I can offer about this for now.

[eagertolearn]

Purple parrot you wrote that so well, i must say sorry to anyone who thinks i was imposing my belief on them, because i wasn't. I was just writing my theory and belief on the subject, as if i was speaking in a conversation.

Purple Parrot wrote:
I feel one may always attract the ones that will reflect them at the right times and moments in their lives and it could be at a certain intensity that one couldn't imagine before.

To me the exact opposite of oneself is the same as a reflection of oneself, i just couldn't find the exact word.

[William]

  To be the downer of this party...  ONly as to make you fully cognizant of meeting others........  Just a reminder to all, and not to confuse...... but.... 

  Many we think that are our soulmates or twin flames and just a part of our programming!.   Sometimes...  Not always....  Just a reminder for balance, and to truely look to what you think is there! 

  We truely want to loose ourself in another that we dont see losing ourself.......  I shall enjoy exploring this thought in a song....  :)

  I know of some of this be experience....  Therefore I have cried alot!  ;)

:)

[Astrojewels]

I agree with all of you on this topic and also with you William, it is a fallacy and part of programming to think you can marry a prince, live in a castle and happily ever after. Twin flames –soul mates are complex like all truth, and part of the reason why the divorce rate is so high because the majority of people are with their twin flames, yet do not recognize it because a person who finds their twin/mate/partner has energetically called out to the universe for a partner who can strengthen the flaws of their mind-pattern and soul personality. So in reality the person you attract should be someone who strengthens your weakness, not the other way around.

So if you are a person who constantly needs support, your partner should offer the ability for you to support yourself. If you do not like to be alone, your partner should give reassurance that being alone is part of loving yourself.

Unconditional love is just that, no conditions, no rules and forgiveness because we are human and make mistakes, anyone can find a partner short term and say they are in love, yet long term requires so much more discipline and control, tolerance and growth between two people with many obstacles along the way.

It takes two to make one, and any man and woman can produce a child but very few can be parents. I believe that it is our parents that initially teach us about love or hate and both have the same intense energy.

Many women find partners that provide the things their father never did, and equally for men with their mothers.

If you find yourself in relationships that seem to ‘replay’ the same energy then you must look at the issues with your parents that have not been released.

[PurpleParrot]

Eagertolearn: You were not imposing your beliefs on anyone-just thinking about your thoughts and ideas and expressing them here. :o)

Reflection to me is someone who loves your life force and loves that life force lovingly. Life force is another way of expressing all of ones encompassing soul energy-the spirit within the human form and the auric energies/the energy field encircling it. Reflections to me are what is shown to you about you and only you in your personal reality. Anything and anyone can be a reflection and one must understand what comes up at any rate/intensity/and persistence in one's life. Its great to be aware and understanding of all--at least how I perceive it. I dont know about anyone else. I think this has been expressed here by others in a myriad ways.

You write well too. :big grin:

William: I love you and you alone. You're a good person in my life force. :)
You are right-look within ones life force and your inner love is really you.

We all love each other for who we are. :D

Astrojewels: Well said!! :o) I agree!! I also love you and you alone. HUGS!