Traits of Cult Leaders

[Mercy Now]

The Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD, 301.81) has been recognized as a separate mental health disorder since the third edition of the Diagnostic and Statistics Manual (DSM), 1980.

          It is described as an all-pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration or adulation and lack of empathy.  It usually begins by early adulthood and is present in various contexts.  Five (or more) of the following criteria must be met (all quotes are from Dr. Sam Vaknin’s Malignant Self Love:  Narcissism Revisited):

1.  Feels grandiose and self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents to the point of lying, demands to be recognized as superior with[size=out commensurate achievements);]

          “The narcissist is prone to magical thinking.  He thinks about himself in terms of ‘being chosen’ or of ‘having a destiny’.  …He believes that his life is of such momentous importance, that it is micro-managed by God.  …In short, narcissism and religion go well together, because religion allows the narcissist to feel unique.”

          “God is everything the narcissist ever wants to be: omniscient, omnipresent, admired, much discussed, and awe inspiring.  God is the narcissist’s wet dream, his ultimate grandiose fantasy.”

2.  Is obsessed with fantasies of unlimited success, fame, fearsome power or omnipotence, unequalled brilliance (the cerebral narcissist), bodily beauty or sexual performance (the somatic narcissist), or ideal, everlasting, all-conquering love or passion;

          “The narcissist is haunted by the feeling that he is possessed of a mission, of a destiny, that he is a part of fate, of history.  He is convinced that his uniqueness is purposeful, that he is meant to lead, chart new ways, to innovate to modernize, to reform, to set precedents, to create.  Every act is significant, every writing of momentous consequences, every thought of revolutionary calibre.  He feels part of a grand design, a world plan and the frame of affiliation, the group, of which he is a member, must be commensurately grand.”

3.  Firmly convinced that he or she is unique and, being special, can only be understood by, should only be treated by, or associate with, other special    or unique, or high-status people (or institutions);

          “The narcissist despises the very people who sustain his Ego boundaries and functions.  He cannot respect people so expressly and clearly inferior to him, yet he can never associate with evidently on his level or superior to him, the risk of narcissistic injury in such associations being too great.”

4.  Requires excessive admiration, adulation, attention and affirmation – or, failing that, wishes to be feared and to be notorious (Narcissistic Supply);

          “A common error is to think that ‘narcissistic supply’ consists only of admiration, adulation and positive feedback.  Actually, being feared, or derided is also supply.  The main element is ATTENTION.”

          “He feeds of other people, who hurl back at him an image that he projects to them.  This is their sole function in his world: to reflect, to admire, to admire, to applaud, to detest – in a word, to assure him that he exists.”

          “In short: the group must magnify the narcissist, echo and amplify his life, his views, his knowledge, his history…”

5.  Feels entitled.  Expects unreasonable or special and favorable priority treatment.  Demands automatic and full compliance with his or her expectations;

          “He considers his very existence as sufficiently nourishing and sustaining (of others).  He feels entitled to the best others can offer without investing in maintaining relationships or in catering to the well-being of his ‘suppliers’.”

6.  Is “interpersonally exploitative”, i.e., uses others to achieve his or her own ends;

          “He will not hesitate to put people’s lives or fortunes at risk.  He will preserve his sense of infallibility in the face of his mistakes and misjudgments by distorting the facts, by evoking mitigating or attenuating circumstances, by repressing the memories, or simply lying.”

7.  Devoid of empathy.  Is unable or unwilling to identify with or acknowledge the feelings and needs of others;

          “But the narcissist does not care.  Unable to empathize, he does not fully experience the outcomes of his deeds and decision.  For him, humans are dispensable, rechargeable, reusable.  They are there to fulfill a function: to supply him with Narcissistic Supply (adoration, admiration, approval, affirmation, etc.).  They do not have an existence apart from the carrying out of their duty.”

8.  Constantly envious of others or believes that they feel the same about him or her;

          “First there is pathological envy.  The narcissist is constantly envious of other people: their successes, their property, their character, their education, their children, their ideas, the fact that they can feel, their good mood, their past, their present, their spouses, their mistresses or lovers, their location.”

9.  Arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes coupled with rage when frustrated, contradicted, or confronted.

          “That which has cosmic implications calls for cosmic reactions.  A person with an inflated sense of self-import, reacts in an exaggerated manner to threats, greatly inflated by his imagination and by the application of his personal myth.”

          “Narcissists live in a state of constant rage, repressed aggression, envy and hatred.  They firmly believe that everyone is like them.  As a result, they are paranoid, suspicious, scared and erratic.”[size=

Conclusion:]

          “NPD is a pernicious, vile and tortuous disease, which affects not only the narcissist.  It affects and forever changes people who are in daily contact with the narcissist.”

          “Sooner, or later, everyone around the narcissist is bound to become his victim.  People are sucked, voluntarily or involuntarily, into the turbulence that constitutes his life, into the black hole that is his personality, into the whirlwind which makes up his interpersonal relationships.  Different people are hurt by different aspects of the narcissist’s life and psychological make-up.  Some trust him and rely on him, only to be bitterly disappointed.  Others love him and discover that he cannot reciprocate.  Yet others are forced to live vicariously, through him.”

[Golden Winged SnakeOiLion]

Thanks for this article. It might help people realize who they are dealing with in certain situations.

[Astrojewels]

Yes very good article, and a cult does not have to be a group so people should remember that, I know a couple that were together for 5 years, she was a nurse in psychiatric home he was a bit of a rebel, could not keep a job, so she fed him meds for what she diagnosed as depression, so about 9 months ago he got a break in life, and got offered a good job, he is on track, and now they cant be together, she has no control, he is doing good. She fits into category 1.  

[Rod]

Funny how SS seems to fit into some of these categories :D lol

I was diagnosed with Narcissistic tendencies, not saying which category though ;)

[myself]

Stewart is not a cult leader. Some people seem bitter. If you had bad experiences with him try to understand why.

[Mercy Now]

I agree AJ  a cult does not have to be a "group " or an organization .

NPD is a pernicious, vile and tortuous disease, which affects not only the narcissist.  It affects and forever changes people who are in daily contact with the narcissist.”

[Rod]

No not bitter at all, just stating what i've noticed :D

[beyondinfinity]

I agree with Soto to the extent that "groupies" follow Swerdlow without thinking for themselves.

[BlueMoon]

Thanks MN for this post. Very interesting and informative on the traits of NPD. Funny the first name that came to me is Obama. Just an observation.

[biosonico]

Thanks for the post.
Yeah, it's more about them boosting their ego than anything else, hence the narcissistic and self-centered characters.

A few names came into my head when i read this, Glenn Beck, David wilcock, Bono... and countless others :P