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10-25-2006, 06:26 PM

She found me on a dating site(yea i know im pathetic). She said she fell in love with me from first sight(of my pic). I admit I'm kind of leading her on. I'm alone, a little lonely and I guess I enjoy the attention. Every time I log onto MSN, she instantly msg's me 'hi honey, hows my handsome man today?'. She's even considering driving across the country to visit me. She's pretty, but somewhat creepy looking, with weird eyes. Stewart once said those dating sites are designed for programmed people to meet other programmed people. Do you think I should meet her in person? :smirk:

***Polly*** · 10-25-2006, 06:30 PM

Definitely not! icon_tgrin

MC · 10-25-2006, 08:29 PM

I would not reccomend meeting her.One thing you said that stood out,and that is that she has weird eyes.Ever see a reptilian's eyes? Trust me,they stand out.

***PurpleParrot*** · 10-26-2006, 12:11 AM

TheKid,

be careful about who you meet..there are lots of guidelines on meeting people off the internet...if you're gonna meet someone, make sure you've been talking to them on the net for a while--as in a few weeks/months even..whatever time you need for consistency checks(to make sure you know they're really their gender,etc)..and talk to them on the phone...for a while for the same reasons...

if you still feel like you want to meet them in person after internet chatting and hearing them on the phone, then meet them in a public place and make sure a friend is with you. If you don't have another person to accompany you in meeting this person, just make sure you meet this person in a public place and stick to that place only. I mean this is exerting lots of caution but its better to play it safe than sorry....you could also always check on Oversoul information and your gut instincts..vibrational energies you feel.

Personally, from what that person is saying to you everyday..I wouldn't go for them..especially if they don't get very far in the chat conversation.

Most of the people that are on my myspace and friendster lists are people I have personally known in the past(or ones i haven't seen in a while), some family members, current real life friends, musicians(who I have yet to meet), and certain people I'm still checking out/emailing with before in person meeting. With myspace, it tends to be a person I met through a group of friends and then I add them on the myspace list. The rest of the people on my list could be friends of a friend--or completely random folks that I was using my discernment on. I stick to emailing people on myspace/friendster lists(the ones who I have never met in person but folks that I think are okay) and if we hold consistent communications that I feel good vibes off of..healthy ones, then I'll take it to the next step...AIM...or to the cell phone.

I have a feeling I'll just meet the right person at the right time..in person and not off the net..but the net is to help me keep in touch with others who live far away..or to chat with friends without needing the cell phone if we don't see each other for a few days.

10-26-2006, 02:44 AM

Thanks some great advice from all. And Parrot you said many things I did not think about, thank you for that!

But I have already agreed to date her(I managed to weasel out of her marriage proposal) :nod:

*continues to dig hole*

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***Sariel*** · 10-26-2006, 10:03 AM

TheKid wrote

Quote: I'm alone, a little lonely and I guess I enjoy the attention

Didn't you say you are engaged?

***Polly*** · 10-26-2006, 10:53 AM

Kid, are you enjoying the intrigue, the walking on the edge, the playing with fire concerning this young lady even though you know what you know?

***PurpleParrot*** · 10-26-2006, 11:34 AM

Kid be free to explore whomever or whatever you want but do so safely and wisely!!!

To overcome loneliness, look at yourself first and work on abandonment/isolation issues too. I went through a phase where when I returned back home to the island, I found myself a stranger here even among people I knew. It was still foreign to me, even though this was a place that I had been raised in,etc. When I started out at the college here, the only people I knew were in my classes or extracurricular activities...and then there were handful of people I knew from high school but I felt different among them(because of my spiritual experiences that changed me). I spent my weekends and friday nights just chatting with friends from my previous college out in DE and I would visit them probably about every month or so. This was a phase I had gone through for about three or four years--I would often keep asking Oversoul and help me connect to like minded individuals and I would pray about it. I also worked on my issues whenever I could. I wanted to find my soulmates/oversoul family members. Then slowly I started hanging out with a family friends daughter and she introduced me to someone who knew lots of spiritual people out here. So last year was the launch of my crazy social life and yeah I did find an Oversoul family member and lots of other people who I hang out with quite often and share spiritual ideas with. Of course, I have to always be careful with whom I can really label a friend and I sometimes will keep asking Oversoul to guide me to or prepare me to meet other oversoul family members. I doubt I'd meet my twin flame again in this life and I can deal with that! I'm learning a great deal in my interactions with others. So my point is, work on yourself and keep manifesting opportunities to meet like minded folks. You'll also learn about attachment and detachment and how to work on your relationship with self more.

I just wanted to clarify one thing not that it really matters--but the people I met on myspace: Well it was more like a group of known friends and I were chilling and they invited other people I didn't know...and if I liked that person, I'd add 'em..most cases I ended up adding 'em onto the myspace lists. I think its a safer way to do that but you can't always be sure since even people you could know for years could either intentionally or unintentionally backstab ya..but thats all: victim mentality,heart chakra issues;relationship issues with self,Oversoul and God; anger and forgiveness issues;energy directional issues; and fear to be reckoned with.

***Polly*** · 10-26-2006, 01:25 PM

Polly Wrote:Kid, are you enjoying the intrigue, the walking on the edge, the playing with fire concerning this young lady even though you know what you know?

Perhaps I should add more to my very pointed question to you, Kid, so it is not just hanging in the breeze :big grin:; a question I never would have asked if I had not seen this tendency in myself before. There have been times I felt very neglected and lonely and wished to take a walk on the wild side because a lure was presented to me. I also realize the pull of programming can be very powerful and compelling and I have walked into situations in the past knowing beforehand they would not be a good idea in terms of my state of well-being. This was when I was younger and had little idea why I was being led around.

***Violet*** · 10-27-2006, 04:13 AM

TheKid wrote:

Quote:Thanks some great advice from all. And Parrot you said many things I did not think about, thank you for that!

But I have already agreed to date her(I managed to weasel out of her marriage proposal) :nod:

*continues to dig hole*

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Where does she live? I notice that you live in Canada--you said she has offered to drive 'across the country' to meet you. When you say 'across the country' do you mean that literally--ie she lives in Ontario, Quebec, or the Atlantic provinces--or does she live in the United States?

If she is American I would be very very cautious if she is making inappropriate offers of marriage. There is a certain breed of American who seem to stalk foreigners with the goal of getting the foreigner into a quickie marriage and then sponsoring the foreigner for a green card. The couple always seem to end up living in the United States, not the country of the foreign partner, and the road to getting the green card is always long and difficult. Because the couple lives in the United States, the foreign partner is dependent on the US citizen for sponsorship, and the US citizen can use that power imbalance to manipulate and control the relationship. If the relationship sours, either because the US citizen withholds sponsorship or immigration doesn't believe the validity of the marriage, there is a whole host of consequences which can lead to deportation and being barred from the United States for years.

This can be especially dangerous for Canadians because many Canadian jobs require frequent travel to the US, and if you can't enter the US because of legal problems there, you've got a serious liability in finding work in Canada especially in some fields.

If she lives in Canada I would be equally cautious but from the opposite perspective--is she a foreigner hoping for a quickie marriage to stay in Canada? The situation can be equally painful energetically even when the shoe is on the other foot.

I've been down this road and it is an extremely painful path. I was fortunate to eventually secure my US green card through my legitimate professional qualifications and was able to cut myself loose from the person who was stalking me, but I know others who have not been so fortunate and have had their lives really messed up. I could be completely mistaken as to this woman's motivations but an offer of a quickie marriage always raises a huge red flag for me that there is some sort of immigration-related motivation. I've known a number of people who have entered into quickie marriages to people they don't know well for immigration-related reasons, and the outcome never seems to be happy: it leaves behind an unpleasant mess of anger and deportations. I am glad that I made the decision to get my green card through my legitimate career and not through a 'quickie' marriage.