03-07-2010, 04:27 PM
Death and Dying
What I am about to discuss is sensitive, and can trigger some people, so please be cautious when reading - this is about death, dying and loss.
I was chatting with MN about death, as you know she has just lost her grandmother; our conversation went on to personal likes and dislikes of funerals and death in general. So I hope its not a bad idea to extend this discussion here.
Death of the physical body is guaranteed in life, it is part of your contract to live, yet it is also the most common fear; more people fear death than anything else. It is a topic that people do not like to talk about, because death awakens so many emotions and fears that it is painful just to think about.
If the fear is separated into two basic concepts, it does change things a little, because most people are not actually scared of death, but scared of dying, the how it will happen is what arouses our senses into panic, because humans naturally fear what is to come, the future and basically just not knowing.
Every person handles death in a different way, some go inward, some emotional and some tend to just accept it as part of life and move on, there is no wrong or right, it all depends on your persona. It seems that pre-funeral plans are very common, have you discussed with your family on how you want to exit this world, any preferences to what you want? Funerals are always morbid, sad and black, and it does totally depend on the age of the person that has died, a funeral of an elderly person is accepted more so than a child or younger person, I have attended a childââ¬â¢s funeral and it is one of the saddest moments of my life.
For me personally, the difficulty I have when dealing with loss is the transition of energy that I know I have to enter, because once that soul has left the Earth- Plane, my life must change and it will never be the same, part of me has also died and time will help me to ââ¬Ëaccept itââ¬â¢ but thatââ¬â¢s about all it will do.
So my question is firstly do you fear death or dying? Is there a difference
Have you ever discussed your own funeral to family?
Or is it just too sensitive to discuss?
what are your thoughts?
What I am about to discuss is sensitive, and can trigger some people, so please be cautious when reading - this is about death, dying and loss.
I was chatting with MN about death, as you know she has just lost her grandmother; our conversation went on to personal likes and dislikes of funerals and death in general. So I hope its not a bad idea to extend this discussion here.
Death of the physical body is guaranteed in life, it is part of your contract to live, yet it is also the most common fear; more people fear death than anything else. It is a topic that people do not like to talk about, because death awakens so many emotions and fears that it is painful just to think about.
If the fear is separated into two basic concepts, it does change things a little, because most people are not actually scared of death, but scared of dying, the how it will happen is what arouses our senses into panic, because humans naturally fear what is to come, the future and basically just not knowing.
Every person handles death in a different way, some go inward, some emotional and some tend to just accept it as part of life and move on, there is no wrong or right, it all depends on your persona. It seems that pre-funeral plans are very common, have you discussed with your family on how you want to exit this world, any preferences to what you want? Funerals are always morbid, sad and black, and it does totally depend on the age of the person that has died, a funeral of an elderly person is accepted more so than a child or younger person, I have attended a childââ¬â¢s funeral and it is one of the saddest moments of my life.
For me personally, the difficulty I have when dealing with loss is the transition of energy that I know I have to enter, because once that soul has left the Earth- Plane, my life must change and it will never be the same, part of me has also died and time will help me to ââ¬Ëaccept itââ¬â¢ but thatââ¬â¢s about all it will do.
So my question is firstly do you fear death or dying? Is there a difference
Have you ever discussed your own funeral to family?
Or is it just too sensitive to discuss?
what are your thoughts?