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Me too Richard. Sometimes its like I get their thought pattern and where the talk is going and I get impatient waiting for them to get to the point. I too, try to pay attention but I zone out and don't even hear them after a while.
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Hehe... well I'm real good about tuning out my husband. icon_lachtot
But seriously.... :D .... I've been like this my whole life. I was tested by a psychologist and I was deemed so far into the *introverted* side of the test she gave me, that I was a bit abnormal by their standards.
I'm pretty sure it has to do with the way my brain is wired. Too much stimulation (visual excitment, lots of talking, lots of interaction, a party with lots of people, extended social appointments).. shuts me down. I need to retreat to *gather my thoughts*. It's been proven, some brains seek out interactions and stimulation and some brains like mine, can only take so much of that before it becomes very taxing on me.
From wikipedia - Introversion is "the state of or tendency toward being wholly or predominantly concerned with and interested in one's own mental life". [3][/sup] Introverts tend to be low-key, deliberate, and relatively passive in social situations.[ citation needed][/sup] They often take pleasure in solitary activities such as reading, writing, drawing, watching movies, and using computers. The archetypal artist, writer, sculptor, composer, and inventor are all highly introverted. An introvert is likely to enjoy time spent alone and find less reward in time spent with large groups of people, though they tend to enjoy interactions with close friends. They prefer to concentrate on a single activity at a time and like to observe situations before they participate. [5][/sup] Introverts are easily overwhelmed by too much stimulation from social gatherings and engagement. They are more analytical before speaking. [6][/sup]
Introversion is not the same as shyness. Introverts choose solitary over social activities by preference, whereas shy people avoid social encounters out of fear. [7][/sup]
I never thought of myself like this until I began living with Richard. (See what you have done to me, Rick?) But seriously, I noticed it even more this past December when I went back by my girls for the holiday. They had their usual 'get-together' with relatives and I found myself constantly going into their fire-place room just to sit and be by myself for a while. I also really look forward to my train rides where I can hole up in my little room all by myself.
While I don't think that there is anything wrong with this behavior, I do get frustrated when Richard 'tunes me out' and then, minutes later, repeats what I was just talking about, or asks me a question about something that I had just finished telling him. To me that is just RUDE and I feel like he just hates listening to me. So I strive not to be that way to other people. But I must admit, sometimes, with some people, it is really hard to do.
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Well, I don't have any proof to give you about the use of color, tone, archetypes. And I don't have a picture of the violet-eyed beings. I have not practiced hyperspace techniques yet, but hope to, when I retire or have more time.
I did have something very interesting happen to me about 1 1/2 year ago and it has to do with your name!!! I posted about it on this forum and then became embarrassed because what happened was a little strange so I edited the heck out of the post before many could read it. I did notice you were online at the time I was writing (your name was listed down at the bottom of the page as online) and I thought to myself... "if he reads my post, he's going to think I'm crazy!".... but, Maybe one day I will post what happened to me about your name, you use here. I count it as nothing more that extraordinary and quite cool, but a little strange. It has never happened to me before with any other name here or any where else. It happened to me when I had my eyes closed.
Dreamtime --- I have a suggestion but don't know if you'll like it.... :) ..... when I am concentrating on a project, or a craft, or the computer, or reading, or watching TV.... I don't like to be interrupted. Maybe wait to speak to Richard when he isn't doing anything? I also don't like to answer the phone - my husband always does. Also,,, just a suggestion, to understand Richard's preferences or interaction a little better -- go to Google and type in "characterisitics of Introverts" and read up on *us*... hehehe... finally, I cannot recommend "Party of One", a book, enough. You can read the first few pages on amazon for free. Her story of her father on his death bed is fantastic... his last words to her were "Leave Me Alone"... and this was not an insult, she understood.
Me....? I believe I understand Richard perfectly. :)
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No, I never read such post Sily. Seeing as you've told me MOST of what happened, how about letting us in on WHAT it actually was? Don't be shy or embarresed. I'm intriqued to say the least Sily.
Whatever it was, I can handle it, and why would anyone think ill of you telling a truth? You talk about things you cannot prove at all, and that doesn't seem to worry you nor should it. The truth takes no mockery, worry not.
Let 'er rip Sil.
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You make me laugh DT and Richard, you are both so funnyââ¬Â¦. And Sily, you have me curious now!
Each personality contains either the need to listen or speak, and just as Andrew X says about people talking s**t, it is important that you take notice of your words, because most of the time people are just talking to hear their own voice, there is no importance in the words that come out! The power of silence is immeasurable, and when you are a listener, you actually hold the power of the conversationââ¬Â¦ true true.. why would anyone want to talk to deaf ears in the first place? Men and women are also very different in their need for conversation, so one must appreciate this factor.
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