09-04-2006, 10:14 PM
Monica, I appreciate your thoughts!! It seems to be a balance or set the mode for directing more discussion on this topic.I have a lot to say regarding materialism but I don't know how to state it.
I'm going to ramble here a bit...
I can draw from so many examples..of where extreme materialism may have been experienced positively...and in cases where it was not....as in it affected the persons in possession of these things in a negative way...
I can also tell you that I have known people who had it all but chose to live simply...of people who don't have much but managed to be happy...or even ones who had a similar background but weren't happy...
i have often grown up with people who were jealous of me(but..i dont know if i was really jealous of them and what for?) or of each other for some reason or another..and i felt it was pointless because someone didn't have enough of this item or that type of item....and i often found it was stupid or silly..i still see lots of people competing with each other for what i perceive is stupid too because material items can be gone just as easily. one example is..whose child can do the most...and so on and so forth. i have often questioned wealth....no one seems to be satisfied by it...they're always wanting more. i'm not any better than the people i criticize. there were times where i went shopping and something kicked in within me where i had to purchase more of that item(because I felt I wasn't satisfied with just one thing) because of fear of maybe not being recognized(jewelry/clothing..though i have dressed simply in the past. still sometimes I like dressing up to impress others or make myself feel better) or not having enough of that experience(in regards to music/dvds). if i didn't have enough of it,then I would fear something would happen(where it would get damaged or misplaced or I wouldn't be able to recover it),etc. also there were times where i competed and i really desired to be "Better" than the other. This was because there were others better than me and I wanted to stand out. Sometimes I still compete even if its an activity that i enjoy. one day i just want to do it for pure enjoyment and personal growth ---not to be better than the next person.
it just seems people unfortunately bash the other...i'm seeing this in my own biological family aside from family members I have known along the years--especially the ones(family members) living in the US. most of my affluent family members in the US or in India often compete with each other. they manipulate the other through advice. its hard to trust certain family members these days and the sad thing is that some of them don't trust my family either over things we suggest to one another. we can barely confide in the other. they perceive us as a potential threat though they're financially better off than we are. though their children are in reputable grad schools/careers,they have often discouraged our family from doing certain things over the years(which if we had not listened to them, we would not have felt hindered in our lives but we learn). we were often feeling guilty if we had something in our possession or if we did something. they seemed to show disapproval. now i know that i need to enjoy and not feel guilty about things. we can't please everyone but its good to be considerate of the other. these people are not bad. its just that we had to go through this experience to learn to know who to listen to in regards to what can be trusted: ourselves,oversoul, intuition, our feelings, thoughts and not anyone else. I mean we shouldn't wear earplugs while they're talking lol..maybe what they say is for a reason. nothing seems to be accidental. if we believe in something then stick with it and don't let anyone else get in the way of what you believe in or really want/need..feel is right.
i have learned also..to not worry about what others think or say in regards to waht you do...its their problem..not yours...so be yourself freely...whatever that would mean.
There is a song about people breaking whats hindering them back from really loving the other or being with each other openly....at least thats what I believe its about....
All of these experiences have caused me to seek "family"(over the years) in whomever I find that I feel I can trust. I think I seek this, because maybe I felt that I didn't really have a biological sister or other family members(aside from parents and brother who are good people but maybe not like minded or in the way i'd like them to be..which means i need to be accepting of them) that I can lean on who would accept me for me(haha unshowered or not..j/k) without applying pressures or showing criticisms.I know it leaves me vulnerable in some ways but at least it leaves me open to finding other people in this world..more new people..more new experiences...new mind patterns to explore..and so on.
there's something i wanted to add to that but it just passed me by lol. i'll remember later.
so theres my two cents. lol
i think this forum is collecting lots of pennies lol.
I'm going to ramble here a bit...
I can draw from so many examples..of where extreme materialism may have been experienced positively...and in cases where it was not....as in it affected the persons in possession of these things in a negative way...
I can also tell you that I have known people who had it all but chose to live simply...of people who don't have much but managed to be happy...or even ones who had a similar background but weren't happy...
i have often grown up with people who were jealous of me(but..i dont know if i was really jealous of them and what for?) or of each other for some reason or another..and i felt it was pointless because someone didn't have enough of this item or that type of item....and i often found it was stupid or silly..i still see lots of people competing with each other for what i perceive is stupid too because material items can be gone just as easily. one example is..whose child can do the most...and so on and so forth. i have often questioned wealth....no one seems to be satisfied by it...they're always wanting more. i'm not any better than the people i criticize. there were times where i went shopping and something kicked in within me where i had to purchase more of that item(because I felt I wasn't satisfied with just one thing) because of fear of maybe not being recognized(jewelry/clothing..though i have dressed simply in the past. still sometimes I like dressing up to impress others or make myself feel better) or not having enough of that experience(in regards to music/dvds). if i didn't have enough of it,then I would fear something would happen(where it would get damaged or misplaced or I wouldn't be able to recover it),etc. also there were times where i competed and i really desired to be "Better" than the other. This was because there were others better than me and I wanted to stand out. Sometimes I still compete even if its an activity that i enjoy. one day i just want to do it for pure enjoyment and personal growth ---not to be better than the next person.
it just seems people unfortunately bash the other...i'm seeing this in my own biological family aside from family members I have known along the years--especially the ones(family members) living in the US. most of my affluent family members in the US or in India often compete with each other. they manipulate the other through advice. its hard to trust certain family members these days and the sad thing is that some of them don't trust my family either over things we suggest to one another. we can barely confide in the other. they perceive us as a potential threat though they're financially better off than we are. though their children are in reputable grad schools/careers,they have often discouraged our family from doing certain things over the years(which if we had not listened to them, we would not have felt hindered in our lives but we learn). we were often feeling guilty if we had something in our possession or if we did something. they seemed to show disapproval. now i know that i need to enjoy and not feel guilty about things. we can't please everyone but its good to be considerate of the other. these people are not bad. its just that we had to go through this experience to learn to know who to listen to in regards to what can be trusted: ourselves,oversoul, intuition, our feelings, thoughts and not anyone else. I mean we shouldn't wear earplugs while they're talking lol..maybe what they say is for a reason. nothing seems to be accidental. if we believe in something then stick with it and don't let anyone else get in the way of what you believe in or really want/need..feel is right.
i have learned also..to not worry about what others think or say in regards to waht you do...its their problem..not yours...so be yourself freely...whatever that would mean.
There is a song about people breaking whats hindering them back from really loving the other or being with each other openly....at least thats what I believe its about....
All of these experiences have caused me to seek "family"(over the years) in whomever I find that I feel I can trust. I think I seek this, because maybe I felt that I didn't really have a biological sister or other family members(aside from parents and brother who are good people but maybe not like minded or in the way i'd like them to be..which means i need to be accepting of them) that I can lean on who would accept me for me(haha unshowered or not..j/k) without applying pressures or showing criticisms.I know it leaves me vulnerable in some ways but at least it leaves me open to finding other people in this world..more new people..more new experiences...new mind patterns to explore..and so on.
there's something i wanted to add to that but it just passed me by lol. i'll remember later.
so theres my two cents. lol
i think this forum is collecting lots of pennies lol.