New Relationship

[Sunshine]

I've been dating a girl for the last month and I could use some advice.  Its been about 4 weeks since we had our first date and the first 3 weeks were great. In this last week I had every single insecurity for myself come up and was very difficult.  Mostly feelings of abandonment and worries that I would lose her, even thought she was gonna die once. I've been doing the golden alter, the basic hyperspace techniques, and affirmations.  It has helped some but seems like if I don't talk to her or see her that day I get a slight anxiety and my heart starts aching.

 She herself takes anti anxiety medication and anti depression medication since she was sexually assaulted by a "friend" of hers, which happened about three years ago.  She says she has commitment issues and sometimes tells me she might run away from me and is afraid she might hurt me.  Another aspect of this relationship is we seem to have sex a lot. I've never been so attracted to someone before or had so much sex before in my life.  She says she was a virgin before I met her.  Wow thats a lot of process.  Anyone have any advice on how I can improve this situation.  Thanks!

[Astrojewels]

Going by what you have said, it sounds like you have similar programming, which can reflect ‘magnetic’ energy, sometimes people feel they are intensely attracted to one another but do not understand why, this can make both people very insecure towards each other, as it heightens the abandonment issues of the programming. If you know what type of programming you have, you could work on the mind pattern of this but it does basically come down to where the insecurities began for the two of you, easily said than done.
Two people that are drawn to one another, yet both insecure with commitment can be hard work, but if you do feel strong love for each other, it is best to work together on the problems rather than individually. The sexual energy can also be layered into your programming, or can be a way for you both to release the insecurities; it can actually indicate many things and does depend on how you feel before, during and after.

[Sunshine]

Thank you for the great advice.  Looks like things didn't work out between us.  This morning she called me and broke up with me.  My abondonment fears were on overdrive this week and finally came to fruition.  I'm now determined to release these issues once and for all.  Thanks again for your help.

[Polly]

Sunshine, If the two of you were brought together for a programmed sexual function it looks like that function has ended.  I know that may be a very disturbing thought but it's not an uncommon occurence.  The best to you.

[Sunshine]

Hi polly thanks for your thoughts.  Would You say that its silly then to try to get back to together.  I really liked her and I thought she really liked me.  Finding someone I like this much has taken many years.  Still on day one of her breaking up with me so, I'm not really over her yet.  Thanks.

[Polly]

I wouldn't say it is silly, Sunshine.  I would say there is a lot to be aware of and keep in mind in addition to all of the regular relationship issues.  There is a lot gong on with the both of you which I am highlighting because of what you wrote already.  Give things some time to settle and if you do see her again at some point, take things slowly and with consideration.

[Sunshine]

Thanks Polly, I told her might call her on Monday and I was thinking of asking her to meet but looks like it maybe too soon. She wanted to know if we could still be "friends." I'm still focused on getting her back. What do you think the best mind set for a situation like this would be?

[Polly]

No pressure and taking it easy and slow.  :-)

[Sunshine]

Thanks for your guidance Polly, looks like I will wait longer to talk to her then.

[Astrojewels]

Hi sunshine,
Sorry to hear that you broke up, but it is great that you have determination to release some of these issues, Polly gives good advice and if you were together for these reasons, one way to understand is to go back over the time you were together. If your personality felt extreme while together, if you found it hard to think in your normal manner, a bit like an extension of all your feelings, if you are able to recognize all these things it will bring some clarity. The other thing is, if you have been deprogramming before you met this girl, and making progress, this can happen to obscure the deprogramming, just some thoughts, stay strong and centered.