Need some advice....

[Astrojewels]

RibbonInTheSky,

Do you think they should reconcile? And did you want to keep this thread going with your topic?  

[Astrojewels]

Headspace,

It has to be a choice to do such a thing, and I do not see any reason for you to turn gay.

You could challenge yourself mentally and physically with brief abstinence; no one knows you better than yourself, set a time frame to go without, follow your normal routine and observe how you react to the abstinence, this will give you some indication if ‘sex’ controls you, or you actually hold the control.

[HeadSpace]

It wasn't addiction or anything like that which got me thinking. Just that the other person might get imprinted or something.. Which I guess would be a not so constructive and polite thing to do..wrong in other words, for I guess. But I dont know the whole picture yet.

The reason I mentioned the gay stuff was because it was supposed to be different for males as you yourself mentioned earlier in the thread. That they do not absorb:)

[Astrojewels]

Yes you could imprint and yes basically men do not absorb, but in a gay relationship the energy transference changes and the male does absorb, because his sexual needs are totally different to being with a woman.

[Richard]

Wearing protection will cut down on the imprinting.

[HeadSpace]

Thank you:) Still doesn't feel right:?

[Astrojewels]

Protection is physical only, it will not protect you in the non physical sense, to cut down on the imprinting, you would have to endure the sexual activity with totally no emotions or thought, not sure how you could do that.

[HeadSpace]

I guess that would be difficult, what about love?

What I was scared off was imprinting someone else with the programs..I know it is an exchange of energy and information anyways so I guess thats unavoidable.

But of course, I can see the program being a part of that.. Just a bit sad, I saw stewart write in the Q&A thread that one should never have sex with a programmed person..So I guess I'm included, and since I have a bunch of different ones it seems I'm especially dangerous:?

[Astrojewels]

How the heck are you going to avoid programmed people in our world? Maybe he means those who are sexually programmed to imprint others, or on a causal basis. I personally do not believe in casual sex anyway, but that is just an opinion.

Love is glorified in our world, it is not a mills and boon where everything is ‘hunky dory’ it is about spiritual growth, tolerance and acceptance, it is about merging two personalities into one, and there must be a cord of energy that has connection and understanding, it must be about support and reassurance, about sacrifice and togetherness.

My husband is specifically programmed and I have never been ‘imprinted’ by his programs, in my experience two specifically programmed people can not share a life together, it is just way too turbulent.

It is easy to fall in love, that is why the fairy tale stories always end after the wedding, because the hard work begins the next day! You should not sell yourself short even if you are programmed, there is someone for everyone in this world, when we are born we spiritually call out for a person who can complete us, so that person is already living somewhere amongst the 6 billion on earth. You just have to find them, you have your hay stack, now you just need to find that darn needle!!!

[HeadSpace]

Thank you:) I think I needed that.
I never really had a decent relationship so I guess I'm fairly alien to that experience, but I do believe in love as lame as that may sound. I dont think any amount of work and turbulence would be a problem:)